Therapy for non-monogamy and polyamory in Portland, OR

If you’re just getting started…

You love the idea of non-monogamy, but in practice it feels so scary. You might ask yourself if non-monogamy will lead to losing your partner. You might struggle while your partner is one new dates. Some voice deep down in your core might whisper “am I worthy? Am I just replaceable?” These painful thoughts and feelings are so understandable in the world of non-monogamy. Our work together will focus in on your inner world so you can face these fears and connect to your worth. When you approach non-monogamy from a place of wholeness, of knowing you value, it makes it so much easier to trust in your connection with your partner and advocate for your needs. Looking inward can help make non-monogamy a truly fulfilling, or even healing experience.

If you’re old hat…

Raise your hand if it’s happened to you: Things are going great with your therapist, they work so well with your main concerns and you’ve grown so much. Then one day, an issue tangentially related to non-monogamy comes up, and you’re afraid to bring it up in therapy (your safe space!) Because you’re afraid of how they might react. They may have never even shown a bias, but you just never know and staying quiet feels safer to protect the good relationship you have with your therapist (it’s such a pain to find a new one, right?) Or if you’ve been unlucky like me, you’ve talked about it and received overt or subtle judgements from your therapist… maybe enough to hurt, maybe just enough to make you uncomfortable, but either way an impact that can’t be undone. This is where having a CMN/polyamory competent therapist is essential. Even if non-monogamy isn’t a “problem” in your life you deserve a therapist who you can trust understands that too! And who can be there with something valuable to offer if you do ever need support in your relationships and personal development as a non-monogamous person.